Behind his back
Examine yourself: do I not indirectly at least forbid him on any of these grounds? Am I not sorry that God should thus own and bless a man who holds such erroneous opinions? Do I not discourage him because he is not of my church — by disputing with him concerning it, by raising objections, and by perplexing his mind with distant consequences? Do I show no anger, contempt, or unkindness of any sort, either in my words or actions? Do I not mention behind his back his (real or supposed) faults, his defects or infirmities? Do I not hinder sinners from hearing his word? If you do any of these things, you are a bigot to this day.
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3. *Examine yourself, do I not indirectly at least forbid him, on any of these grounds? Am I not sorry, that God should thus own and bless a man that holds such erroneous opinions? Do I not discourage him, because he is not of my church? By disputing with him concerning it, by raising objections, and by perplexing his mind with distant consequences? Do I shew no anger, contempt or unkindness of any sort, either in my words or actions? Do I not mention behind his back, his (real or supposed) faults? His defects or infirmities? Do not I hinder sinners from hearing his word? If you do any of these things, you are a bigot to this day.